Are we still wearing blue eyeshadow, big hair and shoulder pads from the 1980's? Very unlikely! So why are we still using the same parenting tools to control children - using punishments and bribery? We are raising a new generation of children in a very different culture than thirty years ago. We need new parenting tools! These tools should build the parenting relationship in order to fuse communication lines between parents and their children. Good communication in the midst of a warm, nurturing, no-fear relationship will allow children to access their parents for help, advice, and guidance, in all ages of children. This can't occur in a relationship based on fear, in which bribery and punishment are used. For more information on non-punitive parenting theory and practice in day to day parenting situations, read "Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery." (Professional Parenting Canada, 2007)
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